The challenge for youths on the spectrum who are learning societal rules is epitomized by the use of “literally” in social contexts. It’s used for emphasis, conflicting with its literal meaning of something that actually occurred. Those who have been taught to adhere strictly to societal rules and that there are “correct” ways of interpreting the world will find it challenging to navigate societal norms that rely on majority rather than correctness. When the majority adopts a term’s definition, it becomes fluid, unless someone doesn’t understand, is unable or unwilling to grasp this new usage.

Individuals who interpret things literally may be unfairly judged as “stupid” for not grasping an implied meaning. Conversely, those who use “implied” or subjective meanings may be considered “stupid” for not understanding the literal definitions. This perspective reflects a mindset where individuals expect others to share their view of conversations without truly understanding how others think. Both sides may struggle to properly interpret or assess how their interlocutor will respond to the interaction. An inability to adjust or an improper adjustment can lead to friction and conflict over time if neither party adopts the other’s worldview.